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You Asked: Do I Stay or Do I Go?

DearSugar — Tue, 07 Aug 2007 17:00:00 PDT

Dear Sugar--

Weeks after finishing college I landed a job for one of the world's biggest companies. It was incredible and 8 months on, I'm still pinching myself. However, the transition from the breezy student life, to the grueling work days where I get home well after 7:30 pm are starting to take their toll.

On top of this I have a boss who can't deal with stress and as a result takes it out on me. He expects so much of me and treats me in a way that makes me feel about 2 feet tall. I'm now dreading coming to work every morning and feeling miserable (which is having an affect on my
relationship.)

This is my first REAL job, so I don't know if I'm just being oversensitive. Is this normal? This is a HUGE opportunity, but the job itself isn't where I imagined myself. But I'm still so young and have a lot to learn. Do I stay or do I go?

--Overworked Olivia

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read more Dear Overworked Olivia-- They don't call it "work" for nothing. Jobs can definitely be challenging, frustrating, time-consuming, and stressful at times, but if you are feeling miserable the entire time, something has to change. Hating your job and dreading going everyday isn't healthy for your soul. You can't live like this forever, even if it is "the opportunity of a lifetime." Try to pin down what you can live with, and what you can't. If the long days are too much, is it possible to cut back on your hours, or do some work at home? If it's your stressed-out, inconsiderate boss that's putting you over the edge, do you think you could have a talk with him or possibly switch departments? Even though he is your boss, you've got to stand up for yourself. No one should be speaking to you disrespectfully, no matter how high up on the corporate ladder he or she is. If everything combined is the problem, and you never imagined yourself at this kind of job anyway, why not take a leap toward the field you intended on? Trying out different jobs will give you varied skills, and will get you closer to figuring out what it is you really want to do. Good luck Olivia! Source

Stressed Out? Avoid the Manic Mondays

FitSugar — Fri, 27 Apr 2007 15:45:00 PDT

Recently, I told you all that I like to clean my desk every Friday before I head home. It gives me peace of mind, so I can start my weekend with a clean slate. Here's another thing I like to do before leaving the office - I make a list of the 5 most important things I need to get done by the end of the day Monday. This way all the details of next week are on a piece of paper (or in my BlackBerry) so they don't need to be roaming around my head distracting me from my weekend. This way my thoughts are free to run rampant in a weekend, space-out kind of way.

Try it...it really helps.

Stressed Out? Get Perspective

FitSugar — Fri, 08 Dec 2006 16:30:00 PST

Stress. It is a horrible feeling. The adrenaline pumping through your veins with no outlet. The gnawing in the pit of your stomach. Right now I am stressed about Christmas. The holiday of love and sharing and all I can think about is how MUCH I have to do, and how little time I have to do it.

Lately though, I have been trying to change my perspective. I might not be able to change my situation - no time to shop for the perfect gift for my "hard to buy for" husband, where to find the freaking SkyDancer doll without going to a WalMart, or when I am going to make those Christmas cut out cookies with my girls. But then I remember that I can change my perspective. I hear tales of fathers disappearing into the snow. Newly diagnosed diseases of friend's loved ones weeks before the holidays. Layoffs. Budget cuts. I hear these things and I know I am sweating the small stuff. And wasting a lot of time stressing. I am truly blessed to have the troubles I have and THAT makes them smaller.

Stressed out? DON'T SMOKE

FitSugar — Wed, 15 Nov 2006 19:10:45 PST

If the first thing you reach for when you're stressed is a cigarette, I am here to say don't smoke. Now if you smoke but have been toying with the idea of quitting, first I'll say "HOORAY!!!" Then I'll say "Don't wait." Now is the time to plan your "quit day." Why not make it tomorrow since November 16th is The Great American Smokeout sponsored by they American Cancer Society?

They have a kick ass web site full of tips for quitting and amazing resources, like the Quitline - a hot line for telephone support through the stressful times. The number is 1-800-ACS-2345.

So hopefully knowing that folks from California to the New York islands are trying to kick the habit too, will give you some moral support. It is easier to know that you are not alone.

Stressed Out? Get Out

FitSugar — Mon, 13 Nov 2006 14:30:00 PST

When I am feeling overwhelmed and anxious, I find that it is best to get away from what is causing the stress. I like to get out. It seems simple. It seems like common sense but it can be really challenging to do. Next time you are feeling stressed, I urge you to walk away from your computer and head outside. Or to the lobby of the office building. Or at least to the bathroom. Just walk away from it all for a little bit. Clear your mind and come back to those darn issues with a new attitude.

If you can get outside, talk a walk around the block. Focus on your breath to help calm your mind. A little fresh air always helps the body and the mind.

Stressed out? List it!

FitSugar — Fri, 10 Nov 2006 14:30:00 PST

If you're stressed out by all of the details of your task list swirling around in your head - why not write it down and make a list.

I am a firm believer in lists. If all that you have to do is just in your head, it can get stuck there. And since the weekend is finally here, you definitely don’t want to be fretting about what needs to get done by Monday on your two precious days off.

Avoid the mania of Monday by writing a list of the 5 most important things you have to have done by 5pm on Monday. This way the details of next week won’t haunt your weekend.

Stressed out: Just Breathe!

FitSugar — Thu, 09 Nov 2006 14:30:00 PST

Breathing exercises are a great way to help alleviate stress. There is a reason for the common term that is used to calm someone down, "Take a deep breath."

For a great breathing exercise you can do anywhere,

read more Inhale deeply through your nose to fill your lungs, puffing out your chest (pushing in your stomach). Hold it for 5 seconds. Then exhale deeply out your mouth, using your stomach to push the air out of your lungs (puffing out your stomach). Hold for 5 seconds. Repeat for a minute or so. Fit's Tip: To really see your chest and stomach working, lie on the floor.

Stressed out? Change your Perspective

FitSugar — Tue, 07 Nov 2006 15:25:00 PST

Having a bad day? Feel like your head is where your feet should be? When your head feels like it's about to explode, it's a good idea to change your perspective - literally.

Stand up and push your chair out of the way. With your knees bent, fold yourself in two at your waist. Relax your arms and let them dangle by your head. Feel the stress drain out of your head. Gently shake your head (as if saying no), then nod it (as if saying yes) - it's always good to end on a positive note.

Keeping your knees bent, return to standing. Move slowly so you don't get light headed and put your hand on your desk if you do.

If you don't feel like sticking your booty up in the air, just bend in half sitting down, putting your chest on your thighs and relax your head down.

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When you're stressed out, who do you turn to?

FitSugar — Tue, 07 Nov 2006 08:00:00 PST

Talking is good for the soul. Fit Sugar wants to know who do you turn to when you're stressed out?

Don't Let These Exercise Worries Put a Damper on Your Workout

Jenny Sugar — Tue, 14 Feb 2012 09:41:36 PST

One of the best reasons to slip on a sports bra and lace up a pair of sneaks is because working out makes us feel good. But worrying about common exercise concerns - many of them specific to women - can turn a sweat session into a stress session. Or even worse, allow these issues to completely prevent a workout. Well, we've got you covered. Here are some common exercise worries women share, and ways to move past them so you can enjoy your gym time.

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