"Notice what makes you really happy and what doesn't. You would be amazed to know how blind we go to our own joy or discomfort as we learn to follow cultural norms. Go back to your inner guidance. Then, move toward things that make you feel good, and away from things that make you feel bad (really, it's not rocket science). Do this whether you're choosing a snack or making a lifelong vow."
- Challenge yourself. "The only way to become confident is to do things that frighten you," Beck says. "When I was 14 years old, I started doing one constructive thing that feels scary every day. I still hold myself to that. It's the only reason I have any confidence at all."
- Acknowledge it. "It's not unhealthy to be insecure as long as you don't lie about it. Insecurity is natural. Admitting it is courageous. Being honest about insecurity allows security to develop."
Sometimes it is hard to see turning your life around in terms of forever, because forever just seems like a long, long time to be going to the gym every three days. Well, what if you approached looking at your fitness or health goals in just four days?
Dr. Martha Beck, recognized lifestyle coach, believes that the first four days on starting any lifestyle change are the hardest four days. After four days, it should start to feel normal. In The Four Day Win ($17.13), Beck reveals her thoughts on why willpower-based dieting is doomed to fail as well as how to step out of the conflict between the rule-making commander (who bans all our favorite foods) and the rule-breaking resistor (who gives in to cravings) and reach the watcher (who is our happiest self). The book also details the latest research into the mind-body connection revealing how our emotions affect our eating.
My favorite part of this book is that there is no end-all-be-all (fall off the wagon and you're doomed) approach that we so commonly see in fad diets and fitness programs these days. It is very comforting to know that if you have a relapse, or as I like to call it a bad day, you're only 4 days from turning it back around. Buy it now from Amazon.com.