I love my Blackberry and my laptop, they make working so convenient. I check my e-mail during my morning commutes. I write on my subway ride home. I make phone calls walking to my house. I honestly don't have time to decompress before I walk through the front door to begin my life as a mom.
Did I write, "I don't have time?" I did, but it should really read, "I don't make the time to decompress." Cell phones have changed the way Americans live their lives after they leave the office. You can always be reached and you can always check your e-mail, or surf the web. It is difficult to chill out when it is so hard to stop working. Your work can just follow you home in your pocket.
Here's a thought - create some boundaries with your technology (I know I am trying to). Turn off the cell phone. Close the laptop. If you have a land line, take the phone off the hook. While you are at it, turn off the television too.
Now...light a candle and take a bath. Read a book. Catch up on all those back issues of the New Yorker that are piled up next to your bed. Go totally old fashioned and write a letter to your best friend living out of state. Put on some mellow music and stretch for half an hour. Just chill out. Don't be afraid if life feels too quiet at first. You will acclimate to the slower pace in 20 minutes, and hopefully you will relax.
I think of a night unplugged from my electronics like a mini vacation. Ahhhh....just thinking about it I can feel my heart rate slowing down.