Have You Ever Been Asked to Lose Weight For a Wedding?

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Have You Ever Been Asked to Lose Weight For a Wedding?

May 6, 2010

Last week we reported that Bill Clinton was asked to lose a few pounds by his bride-to-be daughter. He took the request in stride, but I'm sure this is not always the case. I've heard horror stories from offended bridemaids when a bride has mentioned the entire wedding party could benefit from a diet. I want to know . . .

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18 Comments

totygoliguez 3 years

If someone were to asked me to lose weight, I will not be part of the wedding. What kind of person does that? I understand that weddings are stressful, but that is no reason to be cruel to your guests or bridesmaids. If one of your bridesmaids is overweight: 1) ask them what they would like to wear and work with them to pick the right dress,2) Pick a dress that flatters their body type.

ayuninur 3 years

nope

Kellanawida 3 years

I would be very offended! When I have a wedding I'll want to pick bridesmaids dresses that flatter everyone.

Spectra 3 years

I didn't think anyone really actually asked their wedding parties to lose weight for their weddings except on that show "Bridezillas". No one has ever asked me to lose weight for a wedding and that's a good thing, because if they ever did, I would refuse to be in the wedding party. Interestingly enough, when I got married, one of my friends who was probably a size 18 or so, declined to be in my wedding because she thought she'd look ugly in the dresses I picked out. I told her it didn't matter, but whatever. She was a little insecure, I guess.

3 years

Yes, I have been. However it was more complicated. Dress they chose without me and my sister (another brides maid) was made for skinny people - we're heavier. After I told my soon to be sister in law I didn't particularly feel comfortable and could I wear a shaw with the strapless dress, she said yes and the next day sent me a nasty email saying maybe I should lose the weight, and I'll feel better in the dress. I didn't go to my brothers wedding, nor did my sister, and we're still not talking to him or his wife.

3 years

Thats just ridiculous! I personally wouldnt attend a wedding if such a request was made -- they wouldnt be a true friend and ask such a thing. I have friends that are over-weight that will be in my wedding party, and I will be stressing over picking out a dress that they would feel comfortable in -- NOT stressing about getting them to fit into a dress or image I preferred!

Soniabonya 3 years

I have never asked any of my bridal party to lose weight. But everyone seems to be doing it on their own. Apparently they all want to look good for the big day. Lol. I myself have never been asked to lose weight for a wedding because the last wedding I was in I was nine years old! And personally, I would never ask anyone to do so. It's rude, demanding and could easily cause rifts with friends that I wouldn't want to lose.

kurniakasih 3 years

Nope.

CupcakeGal10 3 years

The idea that anyone would ever ask such a question is incredibly offensive to me.

GlowingMoon 3 years

Nope.

dunnonuttin 3 years

Such a request is incredibly rude. I had five bridesmaids (plus a maid of honor) and they were a range of ALL sizes from size 1 to probably 16 (maybe bigger). The thought never even crossed my mind to discuss their weight in relation to my wedding. Had someone asked me to gain or lose weight... they'd be looking for another bridesmaid.

socalbeachgal 3 years

I thought I'd heard it all but asking your bridesmaids to lose weight is going too far.

fleurfairy 3 years

Unless ou were mobidly obese, why would a bride ever ask someone to lose weight? Don't they want to be the thinnest and the prettiest of all on their day? If anything, I've heard of brides picking hideous dresses and homely bridesmaids so they look amazing in comparison.

chloe bella 3 years

I don't think a bride should ever ask anyone to gain or lose weight, or to otherwise alter their appearance in any significant way. I understand that it's their "big day," but they need to realize that their actions still have consequences, and it's not ok to hurt peoples' feelings. However, I have been in the position before where I was in a bridal party and every time the bride and most of us bridesmaids would find a dress we could agree on, the one significantly overweight bridesmaid would loudly complain that it wouldn't be flattering on her. So, I think the flip side is that if you agree to be in someone's wedding, and you're way overweight but don't want to change your eating habits or work out at all, you don't have the right to complain if the bride picks a dress style that doesn't flatter you.

3 years

I agree with le romantique, I would not attend and I probably would not be friends with that bridezilla anymore. If you're a true friend, then you love them the way they are.

le romantique 3 years

If someone told me to lose weight for their wedding, I wouldn't attend it. I'd also imagine brides trying to get their bridesmaids to gain weight to make her look better. Ha.

ticamorena 3 years

because there's a little sadist in me, I'd agree to lose the weight (even though i don't need to lose weight, i enjoy working out & eating healthy, even bigger plus if it's with friends) but due to her rudeness and insensitivity, i'd make positively certain her wedding day didn't go as planned. yh, passive aggressive, but you get what you give: act like a bitch and you bring out the bitch in me! my friends are very aware of this so i tend to get very few ridiculous requests haha

TADOW 3 years

While the Bill Clinton story is a little funny, if ANYONE ever asked me to lose weight for their wedding they would feel a severe stinging sensation to their face, I would feel a severe stinging sensation to my hand and I would, in a very dainty and ladylike way of course, disinvite myself from their wedding.

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