When I took my first yoga class 7 years ago, my ego took a huge slap in the face. I went to fold forward, and I couldn't touch my toes - everyone could do it (really, even the old guys). Of course comparing yourself to others isn't the point when it comes to yoga (and can cause injury when you try to copy others), but I hadn't leaned that yet so I pushed myself really hard.
The teacher came up to me and whispered very sweetly, "These folks have been practicing for years. Everyone's body is different, so don't compare yourself to others. When they started, they couldn't touch their toes either. It takes time to open our muscles, so don't be so hard on yourself." I'll never forget that little pep talk and how much she inspired me. I started going 3 times a week, and I have to say that my flexibility improved very quickly. She was right, it just took time.

Some people tend to be naturally flexible (like contortionists), and others have to work hard to increase their flexibility. Just because you aren't flexible at the present moment, doesn't mean you'll never be. Your muscles, tendons and ligaments are screaming to be stretched regularly, and all you need to do is devote time every week to make it happen.
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- Only stretch when your muscles are warm. This will ensure that you don't pull a muscle. I love to stretch after a run because I'm all warmed up already. Plus stretching prevents soreness later.
- Don't push yourself too hard. Know your own limit and listen to your body. If you try to stretch deeper, and you begin to feel pain or strain, back off.
- Muscles are like chewing gum. When they are warm and stretched slowly, they'll respond much better. So move with complete awareness, and gently move deeper into poses.
- Be consistent. In order to experience any progress in your flexibility, you must stretch regularly. This means you should stick to doing your stretching routine at least 3 times a week. You'll be surprised how soon you see your body changing.
- Stay in yoga poses for a while. I'm not talking torturing yourself, but sometimes holding a pose for just 5 breaths might not be enough. Give your body a chance to settle into poses, especially ones that may be hard for you. I love to hold Pigeon pose, Butterfly, and Seated Straddle for at least 3 minutes. I feel so open and light afterwards.
- Don't compare yourself to yourself. Just because you could touch your forehead to your knee in Head to Knee pose yesterday, doesn't mean your hamstrings will be psyched to do it today. Since your body changes everyday, just concentrate on the present moment and what your body is capable of doing right now.

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this includes ME! im soo NOT flexible.. its something i gotta work on!!
1Thanks Fit. I also cannot touch my toes (slightly embarrassing...) This is definitely something I'd like to work on more.
2Omg- I HATE how i cant touch my toes! Its really embarrasing to me in yoga too when everyone (except me) can do it without effort. I have been trying and I can feel SOME accomplishment....
3I'm fairly flexible - I can touch my hands to the ground in a toe touch (once I'm warmed up). But I had the same experiece as you in a yoga class comparing myself to others. I walked in class feeling above average - and by the middle I felt below. I wish I'd had your yoga instructor - I really needed that peptalk!
4So weird, whenever I am thinking about something, someone makes a post about it. I don't think I am very flexible because I cannot touch my toes. Whenever I take group fitness classes and it comes time to stretch, I see everyone touching their toes OR when you sit with your legs spread apart and then lean forward to the ground...no idea how people pull that one off.
5*sigh*
Yay, I'm not the only one! I have the flexibility of a 90 year old man, it's always been kinda embarassing!
6I have been working on my flexibility while doing my pilates workout and i have seen great improvement since I started two months ago ( I can now touch my toes!!!)
7I took dance for most of my life up to college, and when I was young, I was consistently one of the most un-flexible girls. Then in jr. high, I had a new dance teacher who taught us some unique flexibility tricks and techniques and I greatly increased my flexibility!
Even today...I can go to yoga after months of inactivity, and still be one of the most flexible in the room. I don't think this came naturally to me, but the training I had when I was young really created a permanent change my body!
Here is my favorite technique we did:
1) Get with a partner (i eventually figured out how to do this on my own, but started with a partner).
2) Get into your stretching position, such as a straddle, while your partner stands/kneels behind you. Totally relax your body and have your partner gently push down with both hands on your back, pushing your torso to the floor. Listen to your body and tell them to stop immediately if it feels "wrong." Hold this for 30 seconds, relaxed and breathing deeply.
3) Now, hold your breath and push up against your partners hands, tensing all your muscles, especially the ones you are stretching. Hold this for 15-30 seconds--stop early if you feel yourself getting dizzy.
4) repeat step #2. You should be able to be pushed down further this time!
5) repeat step #3 and 4 again.
You can do this with lots of leg stretches: straddle (center and each leg), butterfly, or pike (straight legs together). I hope this helps!!! I eventually figured out that I could do this without a partner by just pretending I was pushing up against someone and it worked great!
8That trick really works laimar! My roommate in college was a dance minor, and she worked that on me when I was struggling with a straddle stretch. I'm convinced that's what helped me with being able to place my arms and head on the floor!
9I like this post! I've been practicing yoga for a full year and I can DEFINITELY see a difference. I can fold in half now more than ever
And it does differ day from day. I miss yoga for a week, and oh boy. My hamstrings REFUSE to budge.
10We did the same assisted stretches that laimar described in soccer. I used to be so flexible, but I've been out of practice for so long. I am working on it again though!
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12i'm not the only one then,
13it's so strange that people don't know this stuff... i've been told all this when i was in junior high at the gym lessons, later every trainer i had told me that before first lesson. and i remember my mom teaching me about streching when i was like 8.
14Oh I have this idea that I will begin with a home practice and do my yoga every day to get more flexible but still not started!!
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