I think maybe about 7 years or so ago my dad asked me if i had put on weight. I didn't take it badly though...but usually people make comments like I'm anorexic or too skinny. Please! I'm muscular and slender but not any of those. I just like to exercise and eat healthy.

I think ppl often make rude comments about weight because they are insecure about their own body (mostly I'm thinking of women making comments to other women) and so they can make themselves feel better by putting other people down- it's a very disturbing behavior! Once a guy called me thunder tighs which I think is hilarious because I weigh 112 lbs . . . now in that case he was being extremely immature and was mad because I had declined going on a date with him .

*sigh* I gained weight mostly in my stomach and more than one person has assumed I was pregnant in the last year. Recently, I've lost a little of the weight and have been dressing to de-emphasize it. Thankfully all of the sweet people at my high school reunion said I looked healthier now than I did in my super skinny high school days.

i get comments about being too skinny all the time! its really annoying and it makes me feel bad about the progress i made. I have this friend whos MOM will always tell me how great i look, but infront of a bunch of people and its everytime i see her and its been nearly a year since i lost weight. its quite annoying

I was accused of being anorexic about a year or two after I successfully gained weight back after actually being anorexic. I didn't know what to think or how to react since the girl who said it didn't know me when I was at my worst, that I remember, and what really confused me was that I back at a very healthy weight, from 92 to 130. It was very thoughtless of the person nonetheless.

sadly, i've gotten the "are you pregnant" thing...twice (and other rude comments--including some from family--that i'd rather not revisit).

thankfully, i've lost the weight they were responding to and am at a much better place mentally and physically about my self image, etc.

the thing is, when you've gained weight, there's often something going on "behind the scenes", so to speak: depression, stress, etc. so those comments combined with that...well, for me they tended to compound the problem even further.

now that i've lost weight, people keep chiming in about when i'm going to stop and telling me i should be done, or "you're so thin on top, stop losing weight THERE". uh...ok (i lose weight from the top down). the thing is that because i'm in a better place about it, i know what i want and need...it's easier for me to just tell them i do in fact have a goal, and i will reach it and THEN stop. easier to excuse (by a long shot) than being overweight, though.

everyone's got an opinion...and unfortunately most people just LOVE to share them

people ask my sister if she's annorexic all the time. I hate how people seem to think its not okay to comment on someones gain of weight but perfectly acceptable to comment on someones lack of weight.

Yep, a few weeks ago a cousin-in-law randomly made some comment about how it looks like I've gained weight. Okay, so recently I've been hovering like THREE POUNDS more than my "normal" weight. Man, is he observant. And while he's known for being rude, it still totally caught me off guard. I didn't even know what to say, so I just made some joke about eating chicken wings (which I was eating at the time). Thinking about it now, it probably would have been more effective to call him out on it - "Did you really just tell a female that she looks like she's gained weight?".

Hey That looks like an indian couple! Indians represent!

My dad used to always tease me about my weight. It took a lot to get over it. I'm fitter now, but it still stings when I think about it.

However, last summer at a wedding a friend of mine was telling me about a mutual acquaintance who was there that I had not seen in a long time and mentioned that she was pregnant. When I saw her I congratulated her and asked when the baby was due only to be told that she already HAD the baby- 11 months ago! I was mortified! And I'm sure I ruined her day as well. I guess I had misunderstood my friend but I still feel terrible.

I still remember the time I went to the gynecologist, and when the nurse weighed me, she told me what I weighed and gave me this REALLY DISAPPROVING look. I have never been overweight, and she was LARGE, and for years I was so indignant over that look she gave me, until I realized that she did that because she thought I was UNDERweight. I have a small frame and am well within what is considered a "healthy" weight, if she was really concerned she could have just said something instead of the "tsk tsk" look. Jeez.

I was living in Argentina for nine months away from my boyfriend, and when he came to visit me at about month 4.5 he made a comment to me one night about how i had "let myself go" and just wasn't "in as good shape as [I] used to be." I freaked out and started sobbing and had to leave the room (we were in BED). It was actually probably a good thing we had another 4.5 months apart for me to work it out in my head and get over it before we had to see each other every day again.

He did also apologize but it took a LONG time to get over . . . much longer than it took me to take the weight off when I came home (it was about 10 lbs . . . not like I gained a whole persons worth or anything . . .).

I had a friend tell me in the middle of a fight that I was jealous of her because I was overweight. At the time I was probably 15 pounds overweight. That didn't really help my self esteem, since if I was jealous of anything it was her confidence, not her looks! We laugh about it now, but boy was I ticked at the time.

I've never gotten the "pregnant" thing, but a lot of people tell me that I'm too skinny. I'm not overly skinny, but I'm small in comparison to a lot of the people I work with, I suppose. One overweight woman I work with actually asked me what I weigh. I thought that was fairly rude, since I'd never ask her the same question. I was working out at the gym doing shoulder presses the other day and another woman I work with was watching me. She said "Wow, you're stronger than you look. Your arms look like they could snap in two!" I don't get it...it seems like it's completely ok to say rude things to thin people regarding their weight, but if you make a comment to a fat person, it's considered taboo.

I had a thyroid issue for many years and didn't know it. Many people made fun of me and I had gained weight very quick. I went from a size 2/4 to a size 14 in about a year. 3 times in the last few years I've gotten comments that have stuck with me. Mid-way into the weight gain, a Gyno asked me when my baby was due!!! Once I had gained the weight and was settled into the 14/16 size range, my husband asked me for a divorce and called me a "fat cow he wouldn't touch with a 10 foot pole". My most recent BF who I was with when I found out the issue about 11 months ago told me " I'm not with you for how you look, if I saw you on the street I wouldn't even look twice at you" It's hard not to let these things haunt me. Good news is I finally have the right medicine. I was always a fairly healthy eater and active. With the Armor Thyroid I'm starting to shed a little weight very slowly and I am feeling better in general. If I get down to my pre-thyroid issue weight it will be an excellent revenge!

Nocturnefata- I'm on Armor too, and I swear I was the only person in the world on it. Doctors seem confused when I tell them I'm not on Synthroid. Armor helped me with getting rid of the bloat I had put on (went from 120 to about 150 in less than six months, and when I got on Armor I lost almost 15 pounds of water weight within a month) since hypothyroidism can cause water retention up to about 20 pounds. Being on medication made me more willing to go to the gym, and now I'm slowly getting into shape.

Anyway, my point is don't worry about size and weight. Concern yourself with being healthy and keeping the thyroid in check. Make sure you're happy with yourself, and trust me, the jerks will be eating their words, hehe. Good luck!

I have a friend who carries any extra weight in her stomach. After being asked twice in a two month period when she was due, all the stress about what those people said got to her, and 3 months later she entered rehab for bulimia. I just wish people would keep their mouth shut. Unless someone has announced that they are pregnant or have a shirt on that says, yes I'm pregnant, keep your mouth shut!
Since my friend got out of rehab a year ago, she has relapsed once because of another pregnant comment.

Once when I was wrestling around with my husband, he giggled and said "Your arms are jiggly".
Uh... I'm off to the gym.

"I think ppl often make rude comments about weight because they are insecure about their own body (mostly I'm thinking of women making comments to other women) and so they can make themselves feel better by putting other people down- it's a very disturbing behavior!"

I agree with this wholeheartedly. That's why I generally ignore disparaging remarks about my weight. I end up feeling sorry for the people making those comments.

I'm lean and fit. I've been teased because I don't weigh enough to donate blood. I think the cut-off weight is 110 lbs. Well, I'm about 105 lbs, but I'm only 5'-0" tall. I've been teased that I look like a "little girl," not a married woman in her 30's (trust me, I don't look like a little girl. With my natural C-cup breasts on my frame, that's impossible). However, these comments came from people (men and women) who gained a lot of weight and unsuccessfully dieted. When they were thin, they had NO problems with my appearance. They were being rude to me because it made them feel better about themselves. Oh well.

all i have to say is.. if you are obese, you are not healthy.

but, why should i have to tell anyone that?

people should know.

now that is not a value judgment, they is fact.

but as far as what i value, health is also something i value, but as far as people go, i value all people no matter weight, or size.

but i've been known to call my sister shrimpy, since she is only 5'2" and weights like 100 lbs.. but i mean, we are close, and we like to play like that

most of my life was spent telling people to "f*ck off" because they'd mention my weight, i use to get picked on for being over weight, which is why i think im as b*tchy as i am now.

a couple months ago my dad told me i was starting to look fatter...so off to the gym for 3 hours everyday i went and started taking fat burner pills

weight has always been an issue with me.

good news is in 2 weeks i've lost 12 pounds already, diet, exercise, and fat burner pills =] good times.

this totally just reminded me of something that someone said to me all those years ago. she was a customer and said 'when are you due'...well..um...i wasn't preggo and it really really upset me. from that moment on i literally starved myself!

Oh no! I would NEVER assume someone was pregnant, even if it looked that way, out of the fear that I was wrong and would upset them. I just can't imagine. I would be devastated if someone said this to me. Although I haven't gotten rude comments about my weight, people used to make comments when I had an eating disorder, like "You're so thin!" or "How do you keep your figure?" that actually made me even more obsessed with my weight and food. Since I can remember how that felt I try to just leave weight alone, period.

My Grandparent's have the kind annoying habit of pointing out when someone's has gained weight, even though one of the times they said that about me I would have actually been thinner than the previous time which made the comment especially annoying. They're not trying to be mean or anything when they say but it's irritating.

I never comment on anyone's weight. There's no good reason for me to do so and people should really think about how those comments feel before saying anything to someone else.

The son of my dad's girlfriend keeps trowing once and awhile comments on my weight when we're in company of guests, saying that I am too skinny. It is disrespectful, embarrassing and hurtful! I have struggled with a weight issue for a long time, but he doesn't know that! What surprises me the most is that he has a degree in psychology...I figured he would know better. Anyways, I don't know how to react. I'm scared that if I say something it'll create tension between his mother, my dad and me. Since I met them not too long ago, so I want things to run smoothly...

I'm very sensitive when it comes to people making comments to me about my appearance. Shoot, I get mad whenever someone says, "you look tired." I think anything regarding weight should only be spoken if it's positive. Think about it in your head and put yourself in the receiver's shoes for a second. My co-worker looked at me one day and said, "are you changing your eating habits? you look like you're getting bigger." I was pissed! He said he was teasing but I know he meant that. I don't think he has the right to say that to me because first of all we're at work and we're not even friends. This was about a month ago, I still don't talk to the guy.

I don't care if you're all baby belly and wearing a "Bun in the Oven" t-shirt -- if I don't know you're pregnant, I'm not going to say anything!

My out-of-touch-with-reality mother decided to become a part of my life earlier this year when she found out I was getting married, and insisted on buying my wedding dress (which is a whole different story/issue, ugh). We went shopping and I found the dress, and she asked me, "You'll probably want to lose some weight before the wedding, right?"

Ugh. All I could do was roll my eyes! Seriously, this woman has not been a part of my life about twenty-five years, and then she insinuates I need to lose weight. I am a rock climber who is in GREAT shape. I love my body and I don't think I need to lose any weight.

I the opposite problem with my husband. He comes from an obese family, and his father died very young of a heart attack, so he has an extreme fat-phobia. I used to take all his comments about my weight very critically, but I finally realized that I could literally starve myself and become anorexic, and my husband would still view me as fat -- he's projected his own fat fears onto me. I had gained 35 pounds in 3 months on my last migraine meds, so once I switched, I've slowly been working it off. The past few weeks I've seen family or friends who I hadn't seen in a while, and they had all noticed that I've lost weight (down 20 of 35 lbs so far) and commented that I looked noticeably thinner. When I commented that I had lost weight, my husband, in front of the other people, said "Really? You look just as fat to me."

Right now I'm on a work trip in CA and at home in CO my coworkers make comments about me being so skinny, etc (I'm a 3/4 in jeans, xs tops, 0 or so in skirts and dresses, but honestly not tiny tiny, more athletic). There's a Guess? sales convention going on at our hotel and every time a twig girl walks by my awful coworker cackles and says, "she's skinnier than you are! Look at that!" Want. To. Deck. Her. For so many reasons, but that's not helping at all.

I was at a kids' birthday party earlier this year when a 5 year old asked me if I was pregnant. I just stuck my stomach out as far as it would go and put my hands on my lower back. I said "do I look like it"? He said "yes"! But then I just laughed and said no...I wasn't pregnant.

Some empire waist shirts sure can make a girl look preggo...no matter what her size. I let this comment roll off of me because, well, the kid had 3 younger siblings so he's used to his mom being pregnant!

Most people on this thread talk about being wicked skinny, I have the opposite problem and gain weight by looking at sugary foods. Unfortunately this also has lead to many MANY people commenting on my weight fluctuations (including some friends who used me as a barometer for when they needed to diet, and my mother spending years telling my how fat I was). I've never gotten the pregnant comment, just people telling me I was prettier thinner, or too bad I don't look the way I did in college. Honestly people telling me how fat I look is more likely to make me want to eat ice cream and pastry then go to the gym more.

I'm sensitive to comments made about my weight. A few years ago, my aunt said I had put on weight. It was winter, I was wearing a sweater, and I guess I had gained weight. We were all sitting around the dinner table and I started to cry. To her, it was an innocuous statement, but it hurt. My parents would NEVER say something like that to me.

The second time was about 6 months ago. My ex asked me if I was pregnant. He said I wearing a lot of maternity like outfits. I get that billowy tops might give that impression, but when is it ever okay to ask if you're pregnant? It was so insensitive. He said he was joking, but it crushed me. I felt so horrible for so long and I don't think I've completely gotten over it.

I am harassed constantly about my weight. I work out several times a day, and have entered in two ocean swims, two triathlons, and am planning on running a 5k, a 10k, and a half marathon by the end of 2009. Yet because I'm fat, noone believes me, and get told that I should 'consider exercising'.

That earlier commenter who said, 'if you are obese then you are not health'? How the HELL do you know that? I'm obese and am FAR healthier than many people I know; people of all statures and shapes.

it's so depressing to see how rude/insensitive people can be. as someone who grew up chubby and dealt with the comments since grade school, i have a lot of issues that i wish i didn't. even at my lowest weight (115 and i'm 5 5), i couldn't shake that 'fat girl' mentality that had been driven into me for so long. after hitting 170 recently, i had a (male) doctor at the student care center tell me i needed to lose weight immediately because 'once you start getting older, women start to let go of their bodies, especially after pregnancy'. whether or not that's true, definitely better ways to address the problem, and the assumption that the next step after college is pregnancy was really disconcerting. suffice to say i never went to him again, even after losing weight.

Not about my weight, but definitely about my height. I stand 6 feet tall. I really get annoyed at 'Whoa! you're so tall!' because it's stating the obvious to someone about themselves which they ALREADY KNOW. Or worse, just gawking rudely. Though it's not the same as rude comments about weight, I can definitely relate to what that must feel like. I guess people just don't realize how rude they sound.

i can't help but feel a little offended when friends joke and tell me to "eat a sandwich".

A guy recently told me I was having a girl. When I told him, I'm not pregnant, he said "You're NOT?" Like I wouldn't know? I want to cry when I think about it, it just upsets me so much. I have thin arms and legs but gain all my weight right in my stomach. I can't wear a lot of clothes because they either make me look bigger in the middle (a lot of shirts that are roomier just make me look pregnant) or muffin topy. I have a REALLY hard time with pants, since I have no butt or hips they're ALWAYS falling off. I work out 5 days a week and have lost 20 lbs but I still have a large waist. I don't know what to do, but I keep working out hoping one day I'll have a normal size waist. It's currently 41 inches, I want to one day be under 35. We'll see.

I'm under five feet and wear an xxs, xs, small or a medium/large (in kids), but when I go shopping with my mom and we're at the juniors section, I'll grab an xs or whatever I know fits from previous purchases, and she'll say, "Don't you need a medium or a large"? Uhh...I'm not even 100lbs, how the hell would I fit into those sizes?!

Then, a couple of years ago, I was at the gym walking around because my aunt had dragged me along to go swimming with her, but I finished early and was just checking out the place...Well, I was probably 105lbs (At under five feet, it's a bit more than I should weigh, but certainly in the normal weight range...I think 120 is overweight for my height.), and these three guys started oinking and cackling at me as I walked by. We made eye contact, so I was sure those noises were for me...I was mortified. Who the hell OINKS at someone else?!

I'm studying abroad in China right now and have gotten pretty used to comments about my weight as its not taboo here to say things like "Oh you've gotten fatter" or "You eat so much you are going to become as fat as a panda bear". It was kind of hard and gave me a bit of a complex last time I studied abroad as I am already self-conscious enough about being bigger than almost every girl in China without people saying it out loud, but I think the matter of fact attitude towards weight is kind of refreshing and better for me as I can now joke about it and no longer try to keep how much I actually weigh a secret.

I've gotten the pregnant comment from someone I really dont know at all... and it upset me.. its my belief that you don't say that someone is pregnant unless they personally annouce it to you...

My parents and my whole family bug about my weight issues.... but for me I think its all those comments that get me down more and make me gain more weight... (its not really helping)... when they leave me all alone I start to lose the weight until they start talking about how fat I am....

don't get me wrong the whole fat talk started when I was 12years old when I was stick skinny.. sigh..

5 years ago, my cousin hooked me up with this friend of hers and she swore the he was the nicest, smartest, handsomest guy ever. Well he hit if off right from the start with phone calls and emails. When we finally met, while undressed he gave me the preggo comment, I got offended and I told him so. Anyway, a month later he sent me an email ending the whole relationship and I was devastated. A year later he came back, asked for forgiveness and another chance which I did give him. I did ask him for an explanation though why he ended up things with us....I asked if it was because I was not as thin as he had hoped...he denied it..he begged for time that he would explain. Well later on a friend told me he was married and expecting baby nr 2....and how before meeting his wife he had expressively insisted that she be tall, thin and not wear glasses (I'm short 5'2'', 120 pounds and wear glasses)and luckily for him she had been a model...and though he got what he wanted I gather he is not happy with her and has asked for a divorce twice and she has refused. Well I confronted him, told him I never want to have anything to do with a man who judges people by their physique. I have learnt a lesson from all of this: when the tables turn it could bit you hard in the a*s; learn to love yourself/your body/and especially your qualities!

Yes I consider myself average, especially since last year I gained some weight, but I have had weight issues all my life. I know that I have never been fat but somehow I cant help but be so dissapointed with what I see in the mirror some days, other days I am fine but it just comes and goes.

A couple of months ago my uncle made some joke about my butt being big, I was so mad! I mean I am 5"2 and 110 pounds, but I do tend to have a butt, which I never was bothered about. And the ways he said it was like I was carrying out 50 pounds back there!!! My family in general is more open about that stuff, but still...Not cool.

Glowing Moon, I know how you feel. I'm becoming increasingly annoyed at people commenting that I "should eat more", and weirdly enough it mostly comes from friends who'd NEVER tell anyone to eat less - but for some reason it's ok to criticise the opposite. I'm far from skinny, but I'm 4'11 which tends to freak people out. So, yeah, I don't eat as much as my 5'10 friend, but that sounds logical to me.

The worse is when I'm eating with friends and decline getting a second serving cause I'm full, and EVERY freaking time they go "don't be stupid, you don't need to be careful, you're skinny". UGH. I don't spend my days starving myself, I just happen to be full. And that's a stupid argument anyway, obviously I'd put on a lot of weight if I weren't at least a bit paying attention to how I eat.

I've probably put on about five pounds or so in the last year, and I WISH someone would make a rude comment about my weight already! I feel like it would give me some incentive to be more conscious of what I eat. All my family and friends (boyfriend included), tell me how amazing I look with the extra weight and how I look "healthy"! I feel like they're sugarcoating the truth or something. Sometimes I wish my boyfriend would be like "No, don't have dessert" when we go out for meals. Instead he indulges me and that contributes to the problem!

Oh God, that's terrible!

I used to get tons of "you're too skinny, you look sick" comments (I was underweight and had an eating disorder) - I thought they were nuts, there's no way I could be skinny. Now I understand...

But at my ex's brother's wedding a couple years back, I'd gained some needed weight from that and was embarrassed about it. My ex's drunk father told me I'd gained a lot of weight but that I looked better that way. I cried later that night - I was so ashamed and hurt over it. I never liked him after that.

I was about 30 pounds heavier 8 years ago, and I was with my boyfriend at the time in a CVS. A woman came up to me - a total stranger - and she asked, "Oh, when are you due?" I looked at her and said sternly, "I'm not.!" My boyfriend overheard and came over to me and hugged me. It was really sweet but I was crying inside. I knew I was a little overweight, but I didn't think anyone else knew! Thanks to that stranger, it kicked my butt into gear and I lost that 30 pounds.

My opinion: people make comments about women's weights because they know that is the one thing that will get to us -- overweight, skinny, whatever. They could comment about hair or clothes. But seriously, isn't your body shape/size the worst thing someone can comment on?

In many cases, I don't even think relatives are that serious when they tell thin people "your butt looks big, etc." They just want to get a rise out of you. Same for those who are overweight -- it's the easiest and quickest put-down. Just three words: "You look fat."

But words don't have the power -- you do.

And maybe next time, tell that uncle or the guy on the street, "Congratulations" and ask when he's due

While away for a weekend ( a stressful weekend of seeing distant reatives and PMSing) with my BF, he called me "Chunky chunk." Now, he meant it in an endearing way, but i FREAKED out. I've lost 50 lbs in the last few years and at that moment, being reminded that I was still fat was NOT COOL. Now, we joke about my reaction, and he still calls me chunk-chunk from time to time, but once I realized there was no meanness behind it, I didn't mind.

I wonder why some people think it's acceptable to comment on another person's weight. It rude, mean-spirited and classless. I have been told or asked a number of times about my weight. Depending on my mood determines how I respond. One time someone said to me I got fat so I said "yes, I got fat, but I can always lose weight. You're ugly, and you can't lose ugly!" Another famous answer of mine is, "yes, I got fat, but not as fat as you."

My weight fluctuates and I don't think it's anyone's business why I gain or lose, nor should I or anyone feel that they have to answer to the rude idiots who comment on your weight. I take martial arts and get a lot of injuries so often I am out 4 to 6 months and can't exercise and whatever I lose creeps right back to me. Not that I owe an explanation to these rude people I know.

Think of a good remark to stop them in their tracks and they will shut up.

The end of my sophomore year in college I had a random cashier at Wal Mart ask if I was pregnant (she, mind you, was a very LARGE woman). I spent the night crying on the phone with my friend because I was out of town. I'm with everyone else on this one, in what way are you raised to think it's OK to ask someone if they're pregnant???

Anyway, about 6 months later I opened my eyes and finally accepted the fact that I had gained about 25-30 pounds in college (all mostly in the tummy), and within a year or so I had lost it all and I'm now in the best shape of my life.